FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions

How do you decide who will make a good match?
We take the personalities of the Intended Parents and the Gestational Carrier and see what they have in common. We find out how each feels about critical subjects such as number of embryos to transfer, selective reduction, termination, and contact (both during and after the pregnancy) to determine compatibility. We also take location and finances into consideration.

How long will it take to be matched?
It can be a little as a few weeks or it can take a few months. We want to find your match quickly but it is important for it to be the right match. We don’t just throw people together. We want them to be compatible and therefore, happy.

How old are your Intended Parents and Gestational Surrogates?
Ages vary. Most Gestational Surrogates are between 21-40 years old and they have all had healthy, uneventful pregnancies. Intended Parents vary more because many are in different stages of their lives. They can be from their twenties to their fifties.

What happens if my match falls through or my clinic won’t approve my Gestational Carrier after testing her?
We will work with you until you find a Gestational Carrier who will meet both your and your clinic’s approval.

What if we have questions after we match?
We will be here to answer any questions you have throughout your journey.

What kind of women decide to be Gestational Carriers?
Women who feel a calling to help others. Their goal is to help you become a family. They have easy pregnancies and really enjoy being pregnant. They are special people.

Why should we choose Surrogacy Options?
Because we love what we do! We’ve got the know-how and experience to help you take the same wonderful Surrogacy Journey we did. We offer experience from both the Intended Parent and the Gestational Carrier point of view – we worked together as team to bring a beautiful baby into the world. Now we are working as a team to help you realize the same dream of having a baby.
A great match is extremely important and we won’t settle for anything less. You deserve it!

How will I pay my Gestational Carrier?
You will put the entire amount necessary to pay your GC into escrow. She will be paid from this account. The standard way to pay the Gestational Carrier’s pregnancy compensation is monthly, in 10 installments. We work with an attorney who is available to manage your escrow account if you so choose.

Can I pay my Gestational Carrier a lump sum at the end of the pregnancy?
No. It is not recommended to pay large sums of money at the end of the pregnancy because it may be seen as buying a baby rather than compensating the GC for the inconvenience of being pregnant.

How much does a Surrogacy Journey cost?
It can range from $50,000 to $100,000 or even more. It depends on the cost of your IVF(s), the compensation of the Surrogate, legal costs, medical costs, and travel costs.

How do people afford Surrogacy?
Surrogacy is obviously very expensive. People save up money, borrow against their home equity and/or retirement, put some expenses on credit cards, or ask family for low cost loans. We’ve known people who take an additional part time job dedicated to paying for their Surrogacy Journey.


Definitions

Gestational Surrogacy
Gestational Surrogacy is achieved through In Vitro Fertilization also called IVF. IVF is when the embryo is placed into the “host womb” or the Gestational Surrogate. There is no genetic connection with the Gestational Surrogate and the baby which she is carrying. The embryo that is transferred is that of the Intended Mother or an Egg Donor and the sperm of the Intended Father or a Sperm Donor. Gestational Surrogacy is more common and it is easier to legally obtain parental rights.

Traditional Surrogacy
Traditional Surrogacy is achieved through Artificial Insemination also referred to as AI. The sperm is that of the Intended Father or a Sperm Donor. This type of Surrogacy is much more complex than Gestational Surrogacy because the Surrogate uses her own eggs. There are more legal concerns to be addressed because the Traditional Surrogate has a biological and genetic link to the child.

RE
Reproductive Endocrinologist (fertility doctor)

DE
Donor egg or could be Donor Embryo

ED
Egg Donor

DS
Donor Sperm

ER
Egg Retrieval

ET
Embryo Transfer

FET
Frozen embryo transfer

2pn
Embryo on day 2 (sometimes clinics freeze embryos on this day)

3 dayer
Embryo is grown out to day 3 before transfer or freezing

Blast
Embryo is a blastocyst (too many cells to count)

IM
Intended Mother

IF
Intended Father

IPs
Intended Parents

GS
Gestational Surrogate (also known as a GC)

GC
Gestational Carrier (also known as a GS)

TS
Traditional Surrogate

Surro
Surrogate (can be Gestational or Traditional)

IVF
In Vitro Fertilization

DE/GS
Donor egg with a Gestational Surrogate

PBO
Pre-birth Order

SPA
Step-parent Adoption

HPT
Home Pregnancy Test

BFP
Big Fat Positive (referring to pregnancy test)

BFN
Big Fat Negative (also referring to pregnancy test)

Beta
A blood pregnancy test based on numbers. The number is supposed to double every 2-3 days in a healthy pregnancy.